NLP Life-Change Pattern-6 Step Reframe
All change occurs as a consequence of interrupting an old pattern. From the point of view of an NLP Coach or Practitioner, ‘reframing’ is taking any observable limiting behavior pattern, interrupting it, and then installing new choices that necessarily create new pathways through the brain and nervous system.
The Six Step Reframe is an elegant way to generate new choices. It’s not about ‘breaking down’ or ‘killing off’ unwanted patterns, it is simply about giving the person so many new choices that the individual just doesn’t go down the old pathway any more. Every time the person makes a new choice, the old pathway is no longer used and will eventually atrophy, like any muscle that is no longer used.
If Johnny got a hammer for Christmas and now he thinks everything is a nail, The 6-Step Reframe can be used for just about every problem state that a person might want to change.
NLP Life-Change Pattern- Here’s the 6-Step Reframe Pattern:
SIX STEP REFRAME – Simple Version
1. Start with the behavior you want to change. Say, “Think of something you want to change.” Note: It will often be stated in the form of “I want to stop X’ing.”
2. Establish communication with the Part Responsible for the behavior. Say, “I want to talk to your part responsible.”
3.. Separate the behavior from the Positive Intention. Say to the part responsible, “What is the positive intent of your behavior.” Access the creative part. Say, “I want to talk to your Creative Part.” Speak to the Creative Part and say, “Come up with at least three (3) ways of doing things at least as good as the old behavior that satisfies the (repeat positive intent words. What’s one way…”
Note: You may add, “For every way the creative part suggests to your conscious, mind, your unconscious has generated dozens.
4. When your Creative Part has generated at least three (3) ways go to # 5.
5. Ask if any parts object. Say, “Is there any part that objects to integrating these new choices, now?”
Note: Look for any subtle body movements that would indicate an unconscious objection. If you even think you have an indication of an objection, go back to step 2 and work through the process until you have no parts objecting. You are looking (calibrating) for an unconscious movement, not what the person is saying consciously.
Note: Remember at step 2, you are now talking to the Objecting Part and not the original Part Responsible. You may have to work through more than one objecting part If there are more than three, consider doing a parts integration before completing.
6. Integrate the new choices. Say, “Go ahead and integrate those new choices, now.” Interlace your fingers as you bring your hands together in view of subject as in a Visual Squash Pattern.
Note: Calibrate for congruence in what you see and hear and when you have a congruent response, trust your work and break state. Move on to something else in your conversation.